From Confrontation to Conversation: Thoughts on Listening

We often overlook the role of listening in our lives. There are many guidelines that people give for public speaking, but whoever heard of anything like that for public listening? We take it for granted and don’t think about the importance that it has in creating, healing, and maintaining relationships. True listening is an active … Read moreFrom Confrontation to Conversation: Thoughts on Listening

Life Lessons Learned On the Court

Team sports offer youth the ability to learn the following life lessons: you don’t control the world, the value of teaching rather than finding faults, encouragement motivates – criticism discourages, mistakes are part of life, each person has a part to play and each person is gifted in some way but not necessarily the same as others, and your identity and value is not based on performance.

Abandoning the “Should”

The problem is – “should” is quick and dirty. I can analyze what is and what “should” be and spit it out in a simple sentence. Reaching for the truthful standard while offering understanding for who I am, forgiveness for who I am not and encouragement to reach toward goodness requires more. Typically, it takes five thoughtful sentences to do the job. This may seem like semantics, but how these desires are framed in our belief system is the difference between a life of joy and peace… or one of anxiety, futility and despair.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  Domestic violence is defined as the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another.  Did you know that on average, nearly 20 people per minute are victims of physical … Read moreDomestic Violence Awareness Month